Your Ideal partner in Bed

[niharikap]

you are 100% right. Cheating on your partner should never be an option especially if you r married, rather both of you should talk to each other and become a little more accommodating to the other person's desires. My husband is the sweetest man I've met but I don't know how to talk to him about my desires without making him question my past. We are both from traditional backgrounds (especially him) which makes sex a taboo subject to talk about. We have been married for 2 years. He was a virgin at the time of our marriage. He thinks I was too. Sometimes I think I should have told him everything about my past before marriage so that we started our relationship on the basis of truth and trust. Now its too late. A divorce can damage not just us, but our families too. So if I am to talk about my ideal partner(or the changes I want to see in my husband) first thing would be open communication. If you talk with an open mind, 90% of compatibility issues can be resolved. Second change is attention. Every woman wants her husband's undivided attention when he's at home. If he is more into work, friends and tv even at home, it makes you feel worthless and dejected. third thing is something you have already mentioned. Foreplay. The time I feel the most loved is when i am being kissed and spoken to in a soft voice. Thinking that penetration is the only step in sex is painful both mentally and physically. Fourth is regularity. Having sex once in 3 or 4 months is not enough. It should happen at least once a month if not more. Lastly I want him to take control of me in the bedroom instead of asking me if I am alright every 30 secs. Thanks for raising this topic. I feel less burdened now.