sluttyhusband Wrote:My wife is modern, she works in IT. We've gone pubs and all, so not soo typical housewife.
In which case it is some what easy ! How ? Here is the step by step approach
--- Step 1 "
To find the level of interest of your wife" ---
1. Just find a trust worthy and like minded person among your friends. Let him come to your house for a social function, say birth day celebration of your son or daughter. Just introduce him to your wife as your frined Mr. Xyz
2. After the function when you are alone with your wife, tell her that, your friend Mr.xyz admired your beauty, manners, and smartness ..etc. This is just to see her reaction. She may ask many questions like
1. Who is he ? Where is he from ?
2. How long you know him ? How did you come to know of him ?
3. Is he married ? If so, why he did not bring his wife and children ?
4. If not yet married, why so much delay .... like this many questions.
It means she is interested in him.
--- Step 2 "
To see if your wife is waiting" ---
In another 2 weeks time you take your wife for shopping to a Mall or Bazaar. Let your friend happen to meet both of you there. It should look like a surprise. You should pretend that it is a pleasant surprise ! See the reaction of your wife ! If you find smile on her face it is confirmed that she is positive and waiting. You are moving in the right direction
Then go to the step 3 as explained below:
--- Step 3
Bring your wife closer to your friend so that they can understand each other ---
Then in another 2 weeks time plan a gathering of all three. Example: Just invite him to your house for a dinner say Diwali or similar event. When he has arrived you talk to him for some time and leave him alone withyour wife in the house. You go out saying that there is some unexpected, urgent work. Say that you will come back in 15 mins but come after an hour.
In your absence both of them will start talking closer without any inhibitions. After an hour when you come back Just say "Sorry ! for keeping you waiiting ! The outside work has taken longer time than expected." See the face of your wife. You can judge the difference. After the friend leaves, see if your asks many questions. This time she may not ask any question about him. It means you are moving closer to your target.
Then go to the step 4 as explained below:
--- Step 4
Arrange the first night See the Spark ----
the next 2 or 3 weeks all 3 of you go for a 2nd show movie. It will be 12 PM midnight while returning. Tell your friend that it is too late for you to go home. Just stay in our house for one night and go home tomorrow morning ! Your friend will hesitate to accept this offer. Tell your wife that he is feeling shy. You please invite him to stay at our house. She will say "What is the difficulty ? Why you want to go at this latenight ?. Your friend will reluctantly agree. He stays at your house. You and your wife sleep in your Bed room. Perhaps he will in the Hall or in the next room.
After 30 mins I am sure your wife will not get sleep. Tell her that the friend out side also is not getting sleep. If we continue like this all three of us are not going to sleep for the whole night. She will understand the meaning. Then call your friend to your room. Though he likes to come he will pretend to hesitate. Let him continue to pretend so. You tell him that your wife is also not getting sleep. He will understand and will come inside your room.
Inside your bed room let him sleep on the floor, Give him a Bed and pillow.
Still your wife and he will not get sleep.
In the dark in a whispering voice tell your wife that he is not getting sleep because the floor is uncomfortable. You offer to go to the floor and let your friend come on to the bed. Though she may like it, but may not openly say so. Then tell your friend that he can come on to the bed and you go to the floor. He will like it but hesitate to openly admit. Then as a compromise you come to the conclusion that all 3 of you sleep on the same bed. This is for only 10 mins. Then you go to the bath room and leave them alone on the Bed.
You will find on the bed both your wife and friend together.
You come back quietly and sleep on the floor.
Do not ask any question to your wife or friend whether anything has happened. Just leave it like that.
Your wife will be anxious to know your reaction. Tell her that there is nothing wrong even if something happens. If it does not happen only then there is something wrong ! You can also clarify to your wife that you are not going feeling bad and you like it because it is just natural.
See the face of your wife. She will smile. You can also reciprocate the smile.
Success ! You achieved what you wanted !