28-06-2026, 09:14 PM
### Thakur Villa, June 2008
### Dadaji Jay ko Gafur Pathan ke parivaar ka itihaas bataate hain
Raat ka samay tha. Main apne kamre mein Dadaji ke saamne baitha tha. Unki Guru Dakshina ki maang ke baad mere mann mein Gafur aur Junaid ke parivaar ko lekar kai sawaal uth rahe the.
Maine Dadaji se kaha, “Dadaji, agar aap chahte hain ki main is maamle ki sachchai jaanun, toh mujhe Gafur aur Junaid ke parivaar ke baare mein sab kuch bataiye. Kaun-kaun hai us parivaar mein? Unka aapas mein kya rishta hai? Aur puraane vivaad mein kiski kya bhoomika thi?”
Dadaji ne meri taraf dekha aur bole, “Theek hai, Jay. Main tujhe ek-ek karke sab bataata hoon. Lekin yaad rakhna, kisi parivaar ke baare mein jaanne aur uske har sadasya ko doshi maan lene mein bahut farq hota hai.”
Main dhyaan se unki baat sunne laga.
### 1\. Gafur Pathan — Dadaji ka puraana mitra
Dadaji ne sabse pehle Gafur Pathan ke baare mein bataaya.
“Gafur hamare gaon mein rehne wala ekmaatra '. parivaar ka mukhiya hai. Hamari dosti bahut puraani hai. Jab uska parivaar Aryavart mein aaya tha, tab maine use yahan basne mein madad ki thi. Uske parivaar ko gaon mein apni jagah banaane aur karobaar khada karne mein bhi maine sahaara diya.”
Dadaji ne bataaya ki Gafur ka parivaar gaon mein kai saalon se reh raha tha. Uske bachche bade hue, unki shaadiyaan hui aur parivaar ka vistaar hua.
“Gafur ki zindagi mein kai utaar-chadhaav aaye. Uski pehli biwi aur uske bade bete Momin ka parivaar gaon mein hi rehta hai. Gafur ke apne parivaar ke saath kuch aise maamle bhi rahe hain, jinmein maine pehle madad ki thi.”
Maine poochha, “Dadaji, kya Gafur ab bhi aapka dost hai?”
Dadaji kuch pal chup rahe.
“Purani dosti apni jagah hai, Jay. Lekin puraani ghatnaon ne hamare beech bharose ko chot pahunchayi hai. Ab main kisi bhi faisle par pahunchne se pehle sabhi baatein samajhna chahta hoon.”
### 2\. Momin Pathan — Gafur ka bada beta
Dadaji ne agla naam bataaya—Momin Pathan.
Momin, Gafur ka bada beta hai aur apni family ke saath Aryavart mein hi rehta hai. Uska apna murgi-paalan aur bakri-paalan ka kaam hai.
Dadaji ne kaha, “Momin ne chaar shaadiyaan ki hain. Uski gharelu zindagi kaafi pechida rahi hai. Main use bachpan se jaanta hoon, lekin uske har faisle ko sahi nahi keh sakta.”
Momin ki chaar patniyon ke baare mein Dadaji ne mujhe alag-alag bataana shuru kiya.
### 2.1 Rukhsar Bee — pehli patni
Rukhsar Bee Momin ki pehli patni hai. Woh Momin ke saath uske parivaarik jeevan ka puraana hissa rahi hai.
Dadaji ne bataaya ki Rukhsar apne vyaktitva mein mazboot aur apni pasand-naapasand ko lekar spasht hai. Uski aur Momin ki shaadi ko kaafi samay ho chuka hai.
Maine poochha, “Dadaji, kya Rukhsar Bee ab bhi Momin ke saath hi rehti hain?”
“Is baare mein mujhe uske vartamaan rehne aur gharelu vyavastha ki poori jaankaari nahi hai,” Dadaji ne kaha. “Lekin woh Momin ki pehli patni hai aur uske parivaar ke itihaas mein uska apna sthaan hai.”
### 2.2 Sajiya Bee — doosri patni
Sajiya Bee Momin ki doosri patni hai. Dadaji ne bataaya ki woh apne vyaktitva aur roop-rang ke kaaran parivaar mein alag pehchaan rakhti hai.
Uski shaadi Momin se hui, lekin unke aapsi rishte ki poori jaankaari mere paas nahi hai.
Dadaji ne mujhe samjhaya, “Jay, kisi ke roop-rang ya shareer ko dekhkar uske charitra ya uske vivaahik jeevan ka faisla nahi karna chahiye. Agar tujhe Momin ke parivaar ko samajhna hai, toh unke vyavahaar aur unke faislon ko samajh.”
### 2.3 Fatima Bee — teesri patni
Fatima Bee Momin ki teesri patni hai. Woh ghar aur kaam-kaaj mein Momin ka haath bataati hai. Murgi-paalan aur bakri-paalan ke kaam mein bhi uski bhoomika hai.
Dadaji ne kaha ki Fatima ka vyavahaar gambhir aur kaam ke prati samarpit maana jaata hai. Woh Momin ke saath kaam karti hai aur uske vyavsaayik jeevan ka hissa hai.
Maine poochha, “Dadaji, kya Momin aur Fatima ke beech sab kuch theek hai?”
Dadaji ne jawaab diya, “Unke niji sambandhon ke baare mein har baat mujhe maloom nahi. Lekin itna jaanta hoon ki unki shaadi ek aise vivaad ke baad hui thi, jiski kahani tujhe samajhni chahiye.”
### 3\. Fatima Bee ki pehle ki zindagi — Sonam se Fatima tak
Dadaji ne kuch der rukkar us ghatna ka zikr kiya, jisne Fatima ki zindagi ka raasta badal diya tha.
“Jay, Fatima ka janm ek Sikh parivaar mein hua tha. Shaadi se pehle uska naam Sonam tha. Woh hamare hi gaon ke Sikh parivaar se sambandh rakhti thi.”
Dadaji ne bataaya ki shaadi ke kuch samay baad Sonam apne sasuraal se maayke laut aayi aur phir wapas jaane ko taiyaar nahi hui. Uska pehla pati lagbhag ek saal tak uske lautne ka intezaar karta raha. Jab woh nahi lauti, toh usne doosri shaadi kar li.
Sonam iske baad bhi kuch samay apne maayke mein rahi. Uske vivaahik jeevan mein daraar aa chuki thi aur uske bhavishya ko lekar uske mata-pita bhi chintit the.
### Momin ke saath mulaqat
Ek din Sonam aur Momin apne khet ke paas mile. Dono ke beech pehle se jaan-pehchaan thi aur mulaqat ke dauraan unke beech nazdeeki badhne lagi.
Usi waqt gaon ke sarpanch us raaste se guzar rahe the. Khet mein kapaas ki fasal lagi thi. Sarpanch ek chhota raasta lene ke liye khet ke kinaare se aa rahe the, tab unki nazar dono par pad gayi.
Sarpanch ne unhe dekh liya aur awaaz lagaayi. Unki awaaz sunkar aas-paas ke kheton aur sadak se guzar rahe kuch log bhi wahan aa gaye.
Baat badh gayi aur Momin ke saath maarpeet hui. Phir maamla gaon ki panchayat tak pahunch gaya.
### Panchayat mein Baldev Singh ki bhoomika
Panchayat mein sarpanch ne Baldev Singh se rai maangi.
“Thakur Sahab, koi faisla lene se pehle hum aapki rai jaanna chahte hain,” sarpanch ne kaha.
Baldev Singh Momin ko jaante the. Woh Gafur ke puraane mitra bhi the. Saath hi, unhe Sonam ke vivaahik jeevan aur uske maayke mein lautne ki ghatna ke baare mein bhi pata tha.
Dadaji ne panchayat mein kaha ki maamle ko aise suljhaaya jaaye, jisse aage ka vivaad roka ja sake. Unhone Sonam ke mata-pita se nivedan kiya ki agar dono shaadi ke liye raazi hain, toh Momin aur Sonam ki shaadi karwa dena ek raasta ho sakta hai.
Sonam ke mata-pita pehle se hi uski paristhiti ko lekar chintit the. Gaon mein baat phail chuki thi aur unhe apni beti ke bhavishya ki fikr thi.
Aakhirkaar, parivaaron ki sahmati se Momin aur Sonam ki shaadi karwa di gayi. Sonam ne naya vivaahik jeevan shuru kiya aur baad mein Fatima Bee ke naam se jaani jaane lagi.
Dadaji ne yahan ek baat spasht ki:
“Jay, panchayat ka faisla us samay ke haalaat mein liya gaya tha. Lekin shaadi ka sahi aadhaar dono logon ki swatantra sahmati honi chahiye. Kisi ke ateet ya parivaar ki izzat ke naam par uski marzi ko nazarandaaz karna sahi nahi.”
Main unki baat sunkar soch mein pad gaya. Is ghatna mein kai logon ki zindagi aur faisle ek-doosre se jude hue the.
### 4\. Farah Bee — Momin ki chauthi patni
Dadaji ne ab Momin ki chauthi patni Farah Bee ka zikr kiya.
Farah ka sambandh bhi usi Sikh parivaar se tha. Uski pehli shaadi hui thi, lekin shaadi ke kuch hi samay baad woh apne maayke laut aayi. Usne sasuraal wapas jaane se inkaar kar diya.
Ek saal intezaar karne ke baad uske pehle pati ne doosri shaadi kar li. Farah iske baad kuch samay tak apne maayke mein rahi aur phir apni zindagi ke liye naya faisla karne ki koshish ki.
Dadaji ne kaha, “Farah ki zindagi mein pehle hi bahut badlaav aa chuke the. Jab uski Momin se mulaqat hui, tab dono ne ek-doosre ko pasand kiya aur baad mein shaadi kar li.”
Momin ki pehle se teen patniyaan thi. Farah ke liye yeh ek naya parivaar aur nayi paristhiti thi.
Maine poochha, “Dadaji, kya Farah ko pata tha ki Momin ki pehle se teen shaadiyaan hain?”
Dadaji ne jawaab diya, “Yeh baat shaadi se pehle kitni spashtata se hui thi, iska poora vivaran mere paas nahi. Lekin kisi bhi shaadi mein dono taraf ki jaankaari aur sahmati bahut zaroori hoti hai.”
### 5\. Gafur ke parivaar ka vivaad aur Dadaji ka dard
Dadaji ne mujhe samjhaya ki Gafur ke parivaar ki kahani sirf Momin ki chaar shaadiyon tak seemit nahi hai. Is parivaar ka ateet Baldev Singh ki puraani dosti, unki madad aur do aise vivaahon se bhi juda hai, jinhone Dhillon Sahab aur Chandraprakash Tiwari ke parivaaron ko prabhavit kiya.
Dadaji ne kaha, “Jay, main chahta hoon ki tu poori kahani jaane. Lekin kisi ek vyakti ki galti ke liye uske poore parivaar ko doshi mat maan lena. Momin, Gafur, Junaid aur Junaid ka beta—sabki apni bhoomika aur apne faisle hain. Humein har baat ko alag-alag samajhna hoga.”
Main Dadaji ki taraf dekh raha tha. Unki aankhon mein ab bhi puraani ghatnaon ka dard tha, lekin unki baat mein ek zaroori chetaavni bhi thi.
“Dadaji,” maine kaha, “main sab samajhna chahta hoon. Lekin pehle mujhe yeh bhi jaanana hoga ki kisne kya kiya aur kiski kya zimmedaari thi.”
Dadaji ne sir hilaaya.
“Bas, Jay. Yahi samajh tujhe aage badhne mein madad karegi.”
Us raat mujhe Gafur Pathan ke parivaar ke kai sadasyon ke baare mein pata chala. Lekin kahani ke kuch hisse abhi bhi adhure the—khaaskar Junaid ke bete ka naam, uske dono vivaahon ke baad parivaaron ki sthiti aur Baldev Singh ke saath unke sambandhon ka aage ka haal.
Jay ke saamne ab sirf badle ka sawaal nahi tha; sach, zimmedaari aur nyaay ko alag-alag pehchaanne ki chunauti bhi thi.
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### Dadaji Jay ko Gafur Pathan ke parivaar ka itihaas bataate hain
Raat ka samay tha. Main apne kamre mein Dadaji ke saamne baitha tha. Unki Guru Dakshina ki maang ke baad mere mann mein Gafur aur Junaid ke parivaar ko lekar kai sawaal uth rahe the.
Maine Dadaji se kaha, “Dadaji, agar aap chahte hain ki main is maamle ki sachchai jaanun, toh mujhe Gafur aur Junaid ke parivaar ke baare mein sab kuch bataiye. Kaun-kaun hai us parivaar mein? Unka aapas mein kya rishta hai? Aur puraane vivaad mein kiski kya bhoomika thi?”
Dadaji ne meri taraf dekha aur bole, “Theek hai, Jay. Main tujhe ek-ek karke sab bataata hoon. Lekin yaad rakhna, kisi parivaar ke baare mein jaanne aur uske har sadasya ko doshi maan lene mein bahut farq hota hai.”
Main dhyaan se unki baat sunne laga.
### 1\. Gafur Pathan — Dadaji ka puraana mitra
Dadaji ne sabse pehle Gafur Pathan ke baare mein bataaya.
“Gafur hamare gaon mein rehne wala ekmaatra '. parivaar ka mukhiya hai. Hamari dosti bahut puraani hai. Jab uska parivaar Aryavart mein aaya tha, tab maine use yahan basne mein madad ki thi. Uske parivaar ko gaon mein apni jagah banaane aur karobaar khada karne mein bhi maine sahaara diya.”
Dadaji ne bataaya ki Gafur ka parivaar gaon mein kai saalon se reh raha tha. Uske bachche bade hue, unki shaadiyaan hui aur parivaar ka vistaar hua.
“Gafur ki zindagi mein kai utaar-chadhaav aaye. Uski pehli biwi aur uske bade bete Momin ka parivaar gaon mein hi rehta hai. Gafur ke apne parivaar ke saath kuch aise maamle bhi rahe hain, jinmein maine pehle madad ki thi.”
Maine poochha, “Dadaji, kya Gafur ab bhi aapka dost hai?”
Dadaji kuch pal chup rahe.
“Purani dosti apni jagah hai, Jay. Lekin puraani ghatnaon ne hamare beech bharose ko chot pahunchayi hai. Ab main kisi bhi faisle par pahunchne se pehle sabhi baatein samajhna chahta hoon.”
### 2\. Momin Pathan — Gafur ka bada beta
Dadaji ne agla naam bataaya—Momin Pathan.
Momin, Gafur ka bada beta hai aur apni family ke saath Aryavart mein hi rehta hai. Uska apna murgi-paalan aur bakri-paalan ka kaam hai.
Dadaji ne kaha, “Momin ne chaar shaadiyaan ki hain. Uski gharelu zindagi kaafi pechida rahi hai. Main use bachpan se jaanta hoon, lekin uske har faisle ko sahi nahi keh sakta.”
Momin ki chaar patniyon ke baare mein Dadaji ne mujhe alag-alag bataana shuru kiya.
### 2.1 Rukhsar Bee — pehli patni
Rukhsar Bee Momin ki pehli patni hai. Woh Momin ke saath uske parivaarik jeevan ka puraana hissa rahi hai.
Dadaji ne bataaya ki Rukhsar apne vyaktitva mein mazboot aur apni pasand-naapasand ko lekar spasht hai. Uski aur Momin ki shaadi ko kaafi samay ho chuka hai.
Maine poochha, “Dadaji, kya Rukhsar Bee ab bhi Momin ke saath hi rehti hain?”
“Is baare mein mujhe uske vartamaan rehne aur gharelu vyavastha ki poori jaankaari nahi hai,” Dadaji ne kaha. “Lekin woh Momin ki pehli patni hai aur uske parivaar ke itihaas mein uska apna sthaan hai.”
### 2.2 Sajiya Bee — doosri patni
Sajiya Bee Momin ki doosri patni hai. Dadaji ne bataaya ki woh apne vyaktitva aur roop-rang ke kaaran parivaar mein alag pehchaan rakhti hai.
Uski shaadi Momin se hui, lekin unke aapsi rishte ki poori jaankaari mere paas nahi hai.
Dadaji ne mujhe samjhaya, “Jay, kisi ke roop-rang ya shareer ko dekhkar uske charitra ya uske vivaahik jeevan ka faisla nahi karna chahiye. Agar tujhe Momin ke parivaar ko samajhna hai, toh unke vyavahaar aur unke faislon ko samajh.”
### 2.3 Fatima Bee — teesri patni
Fatima Bee Momin ki teesri patni hai. Woh ghar aur kaam-kaaj mein Momin ka haath bataati hai. Murgi-paalan aur bakri-paalan ke kaam mein bhi uski bhoomika hai.
Dadaji ne kaha ki Fatima ka vyavahaar gambhir aur kaam ke prati samarpit maana jaata hai. Woh Momin ke saath kaam karti hai aur uske vyavsaayik jeevan ka hissa hai.
Maine poochha, “Dadaji, kya Momin aur Fatima ke beech sab kuch theek hai?”
Dadaji ne jawaab diya, “Unke niji sambandhon ke baare mein har baat mujhe maloom nahi. Lekin itna jaanta hoon ki unki shaadi ek aise vivaad ke baad hui thi, jiski kahani tujhe samajhni chahiye.”
### 3\. Fatima Bee ki pehle ki zindagi — Sonam se Fatima tak
Dadaji ne kuch der rukkar us ghatna ka zikr kiya, jisne Fatima ki zindagi ka raasta badal diya tha.
“Jay, Fatima ka janm ek Sikh parivaar mein hua tha. Shaadi se pehle uska naam Sonam tha. Woh hamare hi gaon ke Sikh parivaar se sambandh rakhti thi.”
Dadaji ne bataaya ki shaadi ke kuch samay baad Sonam apne sasuraal se maayke laut aayi aur phir wapas jaane ko taiyaar nahi hui. Uska pehla pati lagbhag ek saal tak uske lautne ka intezaar karta raha. Jab woh nahi lauti, toh usne doosri shaadi kar li.
Sonam iske baad bhi kuch samay apne maayke mein rahi. Uske vivaahik jeevan mein daraar aa chuki thi aur uske bhavishya ko lekar uske mata-pita bhi chintit the.
### Momin ke saath mulaqat
Ek din Sonam aur Momin apne khet ke paas mile. Dono ke beech pehle se jaan-pehchaan thi aur mulaqat ke dauraan unke beech nazdeeki badhne lagi.
Usi waqt gaon ke sarpanch us raaste se guzar rahe the. Khet mein kapaas ki fasal lagi thi. Sarpanch ek chhota raasta lene ke liye khet ke kinaare se aa rahe the, tab unki nazar dono par pad gayi.
Sarpanch ne unhe dekh liya aur awaaz lagaayi. Unki awaaz sunkar aas-paas ke kheton aur sadak se guzar rahe kuch log bhi wahan aa gaye.
Baat badh gayi aur Momin ke saath maarpeet hui. Phir maamla gaon ki panchayat tak pahunch gaya.
### Panchayat mein Baldev Singh ki bhoomika
Panchayat mein sarpanch ne Baldev Singh se rai maangi.
“Thakur Sahab, koi faisla lene se pehle hum aapki rai jaanna chahte hain,” sarpanch ne kaha.
Baldev Singh Momin ko jaante the. Woh Gafur ke puraane mitra bhi the. Saath hi, unhe Sonam ke vivaahik jeevan aur uske maayke mein lautne ki ghatna ke baare mein bhi pata tha.
Dadaji ne panchayat mein kaha ki maamle ko aise suljhaaya jaaye, jisse aage ka vivaad roka ja sake. Unhone Sonam ke mata-pita se nivedan kiya ki agar dono shaadi ke liye raazi hain, toh Momin aur Sonam ki shaadi karwa dena ek raasta ho sakta hai.
Sonam ke mata-pita pehle se hi uski paristhiti ko lekar chintit the. Gaon mein baat phail chuki thi aur unhe apni beti ke bhavishya ki fikr thi.
Aakhirkaar, parivaaron ki sahmati se Momin aur Sonam ki shaadi karwa di gayi. Sonam ne naya vivaahik jeevan shuru kiya aur baad mein Fatima Bee ke naam se jaani jaane lagi.
Dadaji ne yahan ek baat spasht ki:
“Jay, panchayat ka faisla us samay ke haalaat mein liya gaya tha. Lekin shaadi ka sahi aadhaar dono logon ki swatantra sahmati honi chahiye. Kisi ke ateet ya parivaar ki izzat ke naam par uski marzi ko nazarandaaz karna sahi nahi.”
Main unki baat sunkar soch mein pad gaya. Is ghatna mein kai logon ki zindagi aur faisle ek-doosre se jude hue the.
### 4\. Farah Bee — Momin ki chauthi patni
Dadaji ne ab Momin ki chauthi patni Farah Bee ka zikr kiya.
Farah ka sambandh bhi usi Sikh parivaar se tha. Uski pehli shaadi hui thi, lekin shaadi ke kuch hi samay baad woh apne maayke laut aayi. Usne sasuraal wapas jaane se inkaar kar diya.
Ek saal intezaar karne ke baad uske pehle pati ne doosri shaadi kar li. Farah iske baad kuch samay tak apne maayke mein rahi aur phir apni zindagi ke liye naya faisla karne ki koshish ki.
Dadaji ne kaha, “Farah ki zindagi mein pehle hi bahut badlaav aa chuke the. Jab uski Momin se mulaqat hui, tab dono ne ek-doosre ko pasand kiya aur baad mein shaadi kar li.”
Momin ki pehle se teen patniyaan thi. Farah ke liye yeh ek naya parivaar aur nayi paristhiti thi.
Maine poochha, “Dadaji, kya Farah ko pata tha ki Momin ki pehle se teen shaadiyaan hain?”
Dadaji ne jawaab diya, “Yeh baat shaadi se pehle kitni spashtata se hui thi, iska poora vivaran mere paas nahi. Lekin kisi bhi shaadi mein dono taraf ki jaankaari aur sahmati bahut zaroori hoti hai.”
### 5\. Gafur ke parivaar ka vivaad aur Dadaji ka dard
Dadaji ne mujhe samjhaya ki Gafur ke parivaar ki kahani sirf Momin ki chaar shaadiyon tak seemit nahi hai. Is parivaar ka ateet Baldev Singh ki puraani dosti, unki madad aur do aise vivaahon se bhi juda hai, jinhone Dhillon Sahab aur Chandraprakash Tiwari ke parivaaron ko prabhavit kiya.
Dadaji ne kaha, “Jay, main chahta hoon ki tu poori kahani jaane. Lekin kisi ek vyakti ki galti ke liye uske poore parivaar ko doshi mat maan lena. Momin, Gafur, Junaid aur Junaid ka beta—sabki apni bhoomika aur apne faisle hain. Humein har baat ko alag-alag samajhna hoga.”
Main Dadaji ki taraf dekh raha tha. Unki aankhon mein ab bhi puraani ghatnaon ka dard tha, lekin unki baat mein ek zaroori chetaavni bhi thi.
“Dadaji,” maine kaha, “main sab samajhna chahta hoon. Lekin pehle mujhe yeh bhi jaanana hoga ki kisne kya kiya aur kiski kya zimmedaari thi.”
Dadaji ne sir hilaaya.
“Bas, Jay. Yahi samajh tujhe aage badhne mein madad karegi.”
Us raat mujhe Gafur Pathan ke parivaar ke kai sadasyon ke baare mein pata chala. Lekin kahani ke kuch hisse abhi bhi adhure the—khaaskar Junaid ke bete ka naam, uske dono vivaahon ke baad parivaaron ki sthiti aur Baldev Singh ke saath unke sambandhon ka aage ka haal.
Jay ke saamne ab sirf badle ka sawaal nahi tha; sach, zimmedaari aur nyaay ko alag-alag pehchaanne ki chunauti bhi thi.
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