Adultery Knowing My Wife, Knowing Me As Well - part III

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I am tempted to bring forward a few points to enlightened readers of this forum.
 
Just reverse the time line.
 
A very young couple just had arranged marrige, faced severe financial crises. The husband struggling to meet with the expenses, without having stable source of income and solely dependent on wife’s income. He loves her more than his life. Psychologically, he is suppressed to rock bottom without any visible clue to tide over the grievous situations. All of a sudden he discovers his wife is unfaithful. She is spreading her legs to another man.
 
Yes, all male readers, think yourself in the shoes of the husband and find out the probable reactions of the husband.

I have listed a few.

1.      He decides for divorce. End of relationship.

2.      He abandons her. Cowardice. End of relationship.

3.      He confronts her. Bring humiliation to her. Embarrassment for both. If not end of relationship, definitely a sudden break and a permanent black spot on the relationship.

4.      He delivers punishment for wrong doings. Mostly against rules of the land. Not acceptable within educated people.

5.      Commit suicide. Again an act of very weak personality not ready to fight realities. An escapist.

6.      Ignore the incident considering it as one night stand and forgive her. Keep an watch for not repetition and change self behaviour never to expose herself. Helps her in disguise to forget that incident.

7.      He doesn’t confront her but continues to find shortcomings within himself and try to make necessary amendments within self.

What ever be his reactions, he is bound to loose some trust. It’s very difficult to delete the scar formed in mind. And the severity of the wound magnifies, once he credits the responsibility of his wife’s infidelity to himself.
 
Our Krish was in same situation. I think he acted to the situation on best possible way. Only he could not come out of his miserable condition and surrendered to inevitable. He took responsibility and blamed himself for Meera’s fall.

 Unfortunately he submitted to his fate. Not a manly behaviour though things may not be always in your favour.  It's great that Krish held his head high in such great difficulties. What could be reasons for fallout from this position? Is it Meera's influence and manipulation?  
 
Only those unfortunate husbands can sense and feel the pain who faced similar situation.
 
Against this backdrop, what Meera did? She utilised his vulnerability in her favour to commit unabated adultery. She tested his limits and pushed him to the brink of destruction. She continued her affairs with and without knowledge of Krish.
 
Yes, I agree with most readers views that the present Krish is not worthy of being husband of any woman. But present Krish is created and nurtured by Meera. She had options. She did not require to fuel his imaginations. She could easily put a stop and taken corrective measures.  She only utilised Krish for her enjoyment.  Doesn’t she responsible for present Krish, which she fuelled to grow ?
 
Even if we reconsider for argument sake that Meera surrendered to Krish’s fantasy without understanding the consequences. Well, in that case also she can’t deny her responsibility. The moment she understands and accepts Krish is mentally unstable, should stop her game and make him free. I am not demanding a devoted wife’s responsibility from her. I am asking for minimum response from a human for a fellow sick human.
 
She has right to select her life. She can always amicably seek divorce and part ways.  Even in worst case of selfishness, if Meera denies her role in creation of present day Krish, she has no right to play with Krish’s mind with false promises and dump thereafter.
 
She should have been fair in her decision. Either she accepts Krish as psycho and divorced him, not subjecting him psychological humiliating manipulation. Or let her accept that she is choosing Desai out of hidden benefits and Krish has no role in her decision. In no case she can’t justify her traumatic psychological torture and humiliating behaviour. Unless she herself is psycho and need immediate treatment.
 
Her claims of committing adultery only for fulfilling Krish’s fantasy is totally absurd. In that case Sunny, Ashish, Arman, Mohan and Desai on first time should not have existed. Please note our knowledge is limited to knowledge of Krish.
 
I have always felt character aberration for Krish and Meera. Both the characters are forced to behave abnormally deviating from natural. They are forced to enhance eroticism and coherency is lost. Both the characters are hiding something deliberately in most unbecoming fashion only to create forced confusion and relationship rift. Sometimes the characters become over intelligent and next moment a dumb.
 
There are a lot of examples already pointed out by many readers.

So, obviously it's impossible to justify the characters behaviours.