(03-11-2023, 01:41 PM)akanksha Wrote: I wanted to know if everybody goes through the same newly wed experiences?
Does everyone do it on their first night? Does it set the tone for the rest of the relationship?
Experiences are different for each person.
If the Husband and wife both are virgins Type 1
If the Husband and wife both had premarital experiences Type 2
If the Husband has premarital experience but the wife is a virgin Type 3
If the Husband is virgin and the wife had premarital experience Type 4
In all the four types, after the day long wedding rituals both will be too tired.
In the case of Type 1 couple, both will have a thrill and nervousness. Both may have knowledge but no experience. Therefore gradually they will over come the fears and may be in 2 or 3 nights they will succeed.
In the case of Type 2 as both are experienced they will succeed without any difficulty.
In the case of Type 3 as the husband has experience there is good possibility that it will be successful. The husband knows about the Hymen rupture etc. Therefore he will handle the situation with good caution.
In the case of Type 4 though the wife is experienced, she cannot afford to disclose that in our Indian context. Therefore it is as good as Type 1 only.
In some rare cases of Type 4 the wife will say to husband. Don't worry about myself feeling the pain or getting some blood stains. Don't get carried away by the advises given by some half baked books. I am capable of handling all these minor matters.
In any case there is nothing to worry ! The parents are there to help and to give practical advise and guidance.