Worried about having 'RAP*E' fantasies? Read this. (From a guy's perspective)

[ks6996]

Do you have a Rap*e fetish? Have you looked for porn under the 'Forced' category? Do you often jerk-off to your fantasies that involve non-consensual acts? 
If thats the case, then let me tell you something...
You are not alone. 

Research says that 'Forced' fantasies are very common among people, especially in women. It indicates, nearly 55% of people have fantasized, at least once in their lifetime, either 'forcing' someone or getting 'forced' by someone. 

And I have got to say that I belong to that population. Yeah, I have had this fetish for nearly a decade now. I am not certain how I acquired this fetish. Maybe it was the first porn clip I watched, which I recollect was a bit abusive, but, I remember having these 'non-consensual' fantasies long before from a very young age, say during 1st grade. Yup, you heard it right, I started young

You may be wondering how a 1st grade student could possibly get a 'forcing' fantasy. I have wondered the same for most of my life now, and you know what, it drives me nuts. If I remember correctly, I stumbled into my first porn clip when I was in 7th grade. And you know how everthing goes from there, right?!. The more I watched, the more I wanted. It was pretty normal stuffs at the beginning, such as lesbians and kissings. But as I got deeper, I noticed I had a taste for the 'forcing' stuffs. Porn clips where the man forced the woman seemed to arouse me. And what followed next was years of guilt and shame. I couldnt believe the man I was becoming. One part of me is this guy who pisses his pants on even hearing about violence in the news, whose life-goal is not to make people feel uncomfortable, and the other part is the one sitting for hours watching women get abused, degraded, humiliated meanwhile getting turned on and wanking. 

My fetish didnt go well with my introverted personality. Like I said, I couldnt understand why I enjoyed watching women getting forced while my personality hated causing any sort of violence, either physical or emotional, to my fellow human-beings. 

I got scared at one point of time. What if I were to try something out of my fantasy in real life? What if I ended up hurting someone? These questions only made me more anxious. But fortunately, they led me to a solution. 

I started digging for answers relating to this fetish. I wanted to understand why I liked watching women getting forced in porn when I hated such concepts in real life.  By understanding the fetish I figured I could manage them better so that I dont end up in trouble. And this is what I found out;

• 'Forced' fantasy is all about Power & Domination.
  

        
        Power is always sexy, right?! When you have power over something, it means it belongs to you. You become the owner of the thing over which you have power, say a car or a piece of land. Now, what do you think is the biggest power a human-being can yield? The answer is another human-being, the power over another life. When you fantasize about forcing someone, what you are actually doing is you are imagining exerting your power over someone, overpowering & dominating them and owning them sexually. You are fantasizing about bending someone to your will, whether they like it or not. This illusion of power is what turns me on. Making her go through something, even though she doesnt want to, was where the power element lies in for me. Understanding this was vital for me, as I could then realise how this power was nothing more than an illusion caused by my mind. It helped me brighten my lines between fantasy and reality.

• It is also about obsessive-lust.
  

       Do you think you are in love with every pornstar you watch in your screen? If so, then I am sorry to say that you are wrong. Its not love when you like her for how she sucks and grinds, its lust. Problems arise when we fail to properly differentiate them. Lust is getting attracted to one's body parts. Lust doesnt require affection, care or anything emotional. All it needs is merely a sight of body parts. One can even say lust is a part of love, except love is just more. In my mastrubatory fantasies and porn clips, I get too much obsessed with lust, so that even my partner's consent doesnt seem to matter to me. When you combine Power with Love, you get movies like 50 Shades of Grey. But when you combine Power with Lust, you get Rap*e fetish. When you combine Power with Lust, you get fantasies like wanting someone's body so much that you end up overpowering and dominating them even when its against their will.

• Anxiety plays a major role.
  

       Right, you got Power and then you got Lust, both combined turns you on, alright. But that aint everything that keeps me hard. My fetish is a bit more complicated. It aint enough for me to watch the man overpower the woman and bang her. I like it only when she is Reluctant. There are hundreds of videos on the internet which says 'forced' in the title but has women laying silent and impassive as the man penetrates. I find these types boring. I love it when the woman shows acts of hesitance and reluctance. I love scenes where the woman screams, pleads, fights back but fails to escape, tries to resist and such other things. This creates anxiety over the course of the scene. This makes it more interesting and incites sexual tension in the air. And for those of you who dont know, anxiety can get you hard and beating instantly. I am not talking about the anxiety where you are afraid if you could perform without an erectile dysfunction. Thats performance anxiety. I am talking about the anxiety in the scene, in the situation. Sex in your bedroom or sex in your teacher's staff room, which one do you think will be more adventurous? Obviosly the latter, because of the tension and anxiety as it is a place not meant for sharing private parts, there is always the risk of getting caught and on top of all that you are doing your favourite teacher. Despite the risk, its an experience you wont forget for life. Same ways, anxiety stirs arousal in 'forced' fantasies. Even in my fantasies, I always imagine the woman as a reluctant one, and dominating her despite the reluctance becomes the sexual tension in my case. To make my fantasies more spicy i.e. more reluctant, I add biting, licking, choking, pinching, cuffing, deep penetrations, humiliations,etc

My Forced Fantasies = Illusion of Power + Lust + Anxiety (Reluctance)

Though I have decoded my fantasy, there are times I find it hard to live with. For an instance, I get depressingly uncomfortable when I watch movies with sexual violence. But why? They too are like porn scenes, right? 
No, sexual violence in movies are very different from porn. Though both are simulated, they vary in how the scene is conveyed to the audience. In a movie, the audience is well-attached to the character. So, when a woman is forced, we feel empathy for her. And we get very angry over the one who forces her. It is intentionally shot in such a way so that the audience can feel for the character. But porn is nothing like that. Relatively speaking, there is very less emotional atrachment when it comes to porn. All you are looking for is crazy sex. 
Either way, both features characters that comes out of a script written by some people. This realisation cleared my head.

Another instance is when I hear about incidents of such violence happening in real life. There is nothing more uncomfortable for me than reading such news in media. I wonder how could one assume he/she has the right to harm another human-being. But then I also feel like a hypocrite. I try to think how I am any different than those who assault people sexually. I get scared if I would end up being one of them. 
You know what, Never think like that. YOU are not them. YOU will never be them. I might be impulsive, full of lust, prone to temptation, but these things only make me human. I wouldnt even dare to harm another person. When I find something to be uncomfortable for me, I make it sure not to do that to any other people. Be it manipulation, objectification, being rude, if it hurts me I understand it will hurt others too so I simply refrain from them. I embraced this quality and it did wonders in bringing me peace of mind.




You dont have anything to worry about this fetish as long as you understand the following things without doubt :-

• There is only one way you can act out your 'forced' fantasy - ROLEPLAY. If you have a partner, speak to her first.Remember, CONSENT is very important. Or else, there are dozens of Adult Forums in the internet where you could roleplay in text. 
  
• Irrespective of gender, religion, colour, nationality, etc, you have no right to restrict the 'Free Will' of a fellow human being. Everone has the right to do what they want as long as it does not intervene another person. 
  
• You have no right to dominate another human being, as you are not superior nor is he inferior. Treat everyone as you would like to be treated.
  
• Women & Men are equal, and anyone who says anything different doesnt seem to understand we belong to the same species and that we are inter-dependant. No one gave us the right to treat the opposite gender as alien. 
  
• Lust is temporary, its never enough, its never satisfactory. Love is eternal. It is what that makes everyone's lives better. You might be hated by many, but everything you are today is a result of someone's love. Lust is lost as soon as you lose your semen, but love lasts forever. 
  
• Objectification is treating people as a bunch of body parts. In simple words, it is lust. Objectification might feel good but its nothing more than an illusion that gets you knowhere. It is the opposite of love. Objectification feels good only until you ejaculate. Before objectifying women, remember that you came from a woman. It was a woman that had you inside her for 9 months. It was a woman that gave you body parts, including your penis. This will help you break the illusion of objectification along with any disrespect you have for the opposite gender. He/She is not any different than you, he/she feels the same pain as you do.
  
• Be conscious about where a fantasy stops and reality begins. Fantasy doesnt involve other people whereas reality does. It doesnt matter what is your fantasy as long as it stays in your mind where it is safe to express itself. 
  
• Just because some women say they like to get 'forced', it is not an invitation for you to act. And they dont exactly mean that either. It doesnt mean they like to get forced by anyone. It means they like to get forced only by the people they love as a Roleplay, or the few people they prefer losing their power to. Remember, everybody has a choice. Consent is not the absence of NO, it is the presence of Yes.
  
• And again, this is worth mentioning endless times, CONSENT is very important. The ability to choose is what makes us different from animals. Would you be willing to give up your consent to another person, would you be willing to get forced into doing things you dont like? Same goes for all. Everybody wants to be loved for what they want, not for what other people impose on them.
  

Let me know below what do you think about this. Criticism is very much welcome. Share your experience with 'forced' fantasies, if you have any.

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[ghost19]

Mere 1 dost ki mother hai, she is very beautiful and young woman, Main aksar uske baare mein soch kar mastrubate karta hu, mostly main ye imagine karta hu ki hamara young servant us aunty ka akele mein bang kar raha hai bas ye sochte hi main too much arouse ho jata hu, ye meri most favorite fantasy hai