Romance An Old Debt has to be Paid..by salir

[RCF]

I see it differently and argue that it was not Nadir's foolishness at the time that made him seriously
consider divorce, but that he felt deeply violated in his personality and in his role as Meena's husband
'he was not seen as family and left OUT'.

When Meena was blackmailed by her uncle (which he heard the very first night!), Nadir expected her 
to talk to him about the blackmail. Because as a husband, he was/is HER MOST DEAR FAMILY MEMBER.

Since she (to this day, by the way!) did not respond to the blackmail with any clarity, Nadir did NOT feel
like a member of her family.
According to his (general) opinion, both families merge into one with the marriage.
Nadir saw it that Meena (perhaps unconsciously in hindsight) had not seeing him in HER family circle.

I think it was this disastrous step by Meena that Nadir still cannot let go of: 
Not quite being HER family and belonging to it ...

Meena had planned and initiated the deal with the classic car long before the crisis meeting and Nadir's
move out of the house they shared. The car had already been bought and just had to be delivered on
Nadir's birthday.

Rather, the letter was an expression of thanks and deep appreciation for the friendship they had shared
since childhood, for the time they had spent together and for the love they shared. 
The letter was perceived and honoured as such by Nadir...


In this sense
All the best

Lollobionda

I see it in a different perspective or you can say other side of the coin.

Women always look up to two men in their life and they will do everything they can to keep up their honor. Her not revealing this to her husband or her mother is to protect her father's image and their families reputation. Irrespective of how Nadir will see the news she could not bear to reveal it and could probably not bear the thought that Nadir will think that her father is a fraud. If it was other way round and Nadir is caught in a scam if there was a choice she would never reveal it to her parents because she would not bear the thought of her parents looking down on her husband. Same way she feels about her father.

She will obviously reveal it one day we will see in which circumstances. As far as my comment on being foolish and I stand by it because knowing she loves him and also knowing he could have stopped it Nadir chose to remain silent and give choice to her and to this day he did not reveal how he saw them and when he decided to take path of voyeuristic nature. It was clear from the notes that the moment he heard the uncle's proposal he expected Meena to come for his help but if she did not , wouldn't it make husband's duty to protect his wife? He did not take that option rather chose to enjoy their affair.

Also my question for friend Lollo: If you feel for not revealing a family secret is worth a divorce then what should be solution for a husband who spy on his wife with cameras all around the house. its a breach of trust and marriage.

~ RCF